While there’s a time and place for a marathon sex session, sometimes less is more. As the weather starts to cool down and we come into cuffing season, it’s time to maximize that pleasure with minimal effort. Two of the top sex experts in the industry are here to share the hottest lazy sex positions and the best toys to take you from 0 to 100 when you want to keep things simple or simply don’t have the energy.
Lisa Finn, sex educator at Babeland, and Annette Benedetti, a sex and intimacy coach and host of the Talk Sex With Annette podcast, are here to give you the advice you never knew you so desperately needed.
The Cross
Benedetti shares, “In the cross, one partner lies flat while the other drapes across them at a right angle, creating an effortless tangle of limbs. It’s all skin-to-skin contact, no lifting or holding yourself up, and it leaves easy access for grinding, clit play, or slipping in a toy.” This intimate position is perfect for combining with toys or using your hands.
Lazy Doggy
For deeper penetration, Lisa Finn suggests the lazy dog position. She recommends “assisted doggy” or “lazy doggy,” which is a take on doggy style, but use a sex positioning pillow. Sex pillows are an incredible tool because they make exploring different positions so much easier without all the muscle work — they’re the ultimate lazy girl positioning hack. Using a wedge pillow for assisted doggy props up the hips, opening the body for easier and deeper access for the giver, and better angles for G-spot stimulation. The wedge pillow supports all your weight so you can relax and focus on sensation, not balance.
The Starfish
The Starfish is another favorite of Benedetti, who tells us, “The starfish is pure surrender: you lie on your back, legs open, and let your partner, a toy, or both take the lead. You don’t move; you just receive. You’re comfortable, completely relaxed, and can build pleasure however you like, whether that’s clitoral stimulation, penetration, or just melting into body-to-body grinding.”
Spooning
Who doesn’t love a cozy spooning session? Spooning is great for all gender pairings, making it one of the most versatile lazy sex positions. Here, both partners lie on their sides with the penetrating partner on the outside as big spoon, making thrusting low-effort but just as satisfying. This position is intimate and great for morning sex (especially if you want to avoid morning breath). Here, the penetrating partner can also use a sex toy (or their fingers) on the receiving partner.
While these positions are great for partnered sex, if you’re looking for maximum pleasure with minimal effort, Benedetti recommends the Womanizer Blend, which is a powerhouse that can provide quickie orgasms, let you go hands-free, and achieve an intense blended orgasm in no time at all.
Finn agrees that oral sex stimulators are the way to go, adding, “Air pleasure and clitoral suction toys are my top recommendation for low effort, high orgasmic potential. You can absolutely move the toy or your body if that feels good, but you don’t have to — these toys are designed to deliver plenty of sensation even if you stay still. Simply lube up the opening of the toy, place it over the head of the clitoris to make a seal against the body, and then turn it on and let the movement and pulsations of air do all of the stimulating for you.”
Our Babeland expert also shares one final pro tip: if you don’t have a ton of time to get off physically, warm yourself up with some incognito foreplay beforehand. “Turn yourself on mentally by listening to an erotic audiobook on your commute home, re-reading a dirty text message exchange, or imagining a detailed fantasy scenario as you make your way to your bedroom,” Finn said. “You can also explore subtle “innocent” erogenous zones (like the lower thighs, behind the knee, or the inside of the wrists, which can be surprisingly sensitive) by lightly running your fingers over them while you daydream. This way, by the time you are able to start touching yourself, your mind is already aroused, and your body will be more likely to catch up quickly after.”